AN OVERVIEW OF AGING AND SEXUALITY
AGING SEXUALITY IS NOT AN OXYMORON
The increase in people who now live well into their 80s and 90s has led sex educators to pay more attention to their sexual needs and difficulties . This is a new and developing field and this course will only be able to take a very superficial look.
In essence, the elderly are not asexual as many continue to believe. Instead, they remain sexual but with an expression that is much different than that of youth.
When you start talking about people "of a certain age" new words start appearing in the vocabulary. For example: OTHERCOURSE AND OUTERCOURSE. SPONTANEOUS VS. REACTIVE DESIRE. PROLONGED INTIMACY AND AND EXTENDED AROUSAL WITHOUT PENETRATION sometimes trumps juicy sex and orgasms.
Sexual expression in the elderly is real, lots of fun but different. A lot different.
I will take a very close look at many aspects of getting old while remaining sexual.
One of my favorite films on aging and sexuality is CLOUD 9, (on Netflix -- read the reviews) story about a love affair between two very senior citizens. It explores old age, boredom, and infidelity, topics not usually talked about. It is a film with mixed reviews that dares to take a close and sometimes full frontal look at senior citizens having sex along with a passionate affair.
Classes might show educational videos of older people being sexual followed by class discussion. Students not comfortable with seeing senior citizens in sexual settings will be excused from class -- everything will be optional. But be WARNED, it is impossible to talk about senior sexuality without actually talking about and showing senior sexuality.
JOAN PRICE AGING AND SEXUALITY INTERVIEW (1 HOUR):
One of the best interviews covering the entire spectrum of aging and sexuality by a leader in aging and sexuality education, Joan Price. This is an interview that reviews and amplifies much of what I am teaching and is a must listen. The link is HERE
The increase in people who now live well into their 80s and 90s has led sex educators to pay more attention to their sexual needs and difficulties . This is a new and developing field and this course will only be able to take a very superficial look.
In essence, the elderly are not asexual as many continue to believe. Instead, they remain sexual but with an expression that is much different than that of youth.
When you start talking about people "of a certain age" new words start appearing in the vocabulary. For example: OTHERCOURSE AND OUTERCOURSE. SPONTANEOUS VS. REACTIVE DESIRE. PROLONGED INTIMACY AND AND EXTENDED AROUSAL WITHOUT PENETRATION sometimes trumps juicy sex and orgasms.
Sexual expression in the elderly is real, lots of fun but different. A lot different.
I will take a very close look at many aspects of getting old while remaining sexual.
One of my favorite films on aging and sexuality is CLOUD 9, (on Netflix -- read the reviews) story about a love affair between two very senior citizens. It explores old age, boredom, and infidelity, topics not usually talked about. It is a film with mixed reviews that dares to take a close and sometimes full frontal look at senior citizens having sex along with a passionate affair.
Classes might show educational videos of older people being sexual followed by class discussion. Students not comfortable with seeing senior citizens in sexual settings will be excused from class -- everything will be optional. But be WARNED, it is impossible to talk about senior sexuality without actually talking about and showing senior sexuality.
JOAN PRICE AGING AND SEXUALITY INTERVIEW (1 HOUR):
One of the best interviews covering the entire spectrum of aging and sexuality by a leader in aging and sexuality education, Joan Price. This is an interview that reviews and amplifies much of what I am teaching and is a must listen. The link is HERE
THE HEBREW HOME AT RIVERDALE, NEW YORK: This Continuing Care Retirement Community has addressed the sexual expression needs of its residents and has developed a policy. This policy is very clearly stated on its website and deals with sexual expression in residents who have dementia and Alzeiheimer's. The link is HERE Be sure to read the Guidelines at the same link as they cover policies with residents who have Alzheimer's and Dementia.
OLDER WOMEN, YOUNGER MEN: SOCIETY WOULD PREFER THAT OLDER PEOPLE NOT BE SEXUAL AND JUST TEND TO THEIR KNITTING OR TV. BUT SOME OLDER PEOPLE ARE INDEED SEXUAL AND NOT ASHAMED TO TALK ABOUT IT. HERE ARE SOME OLDER WOMEN BEING VERY TRUTHFUL ABOUT THEIR SEXUALITY.
IF YOU ARE SQUEEMISH ABOUT GOLDEN AGE WOMEN BEING SEXUAL THIS IS NOT A PAGE YOU WILL WANT TO READ.
BUT, IF YOU THINK IT IS OK FOR OLDER WOMEN TO BE SEXUAL SEE THIS LINK AND WATCH THE VIDEO.
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IF YOU ARE SQUEEMISH ABOUT GOLDEN AGE WOMEN BEING SEXUAL THIS IS NOT A PAGE YOU WILL WANT TO READ.
BUT, IF YOU THINK IT IS OK FOR OLDER WOMEN TO BE SEXUAL SEE THIS LINK AND WATCH THE VIDEO.
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CAN A WIFE WITH DEMENTIA SAY YES TO SEX? This Dec 2014 Bloomberg news article brings us a very difficult problem. Can a husband or wife have sex with a partner who is in a nursing home? The husband in this article is being accused of rape. This is very important as our population is aging and many of us remain sexual even late into life even as residents of senior care centers. This article deserves a careful reading. The link is HERE. http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2014-12-09/rape-case-asks-if-wife-with-dementia-can-say-yes-to-her-husband.html
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WHY EVERY WOMEN OVER 50 SHOULD PRACTICE BISEXUALITY: This article just appeared in the Huffington Post. AB (Affectional Bonding) may be the new kid on the block which solves the problem of men dieing too soon and leaving women without sex partners. This is not a new idea but one whose time has come (maybe?) The link is HERE
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WAS IT FATAL FOR YOU: SEX AND AGING AND DEFIBRILLATORS THE LINK IS HERE
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/fashion/Sex-Was-It-Fatal-for-You-Darling.html?emc=edit_tnt_20140320&nlid=65606895&tntemail0=y&_r=0
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SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY: WHAT'S AGING GOT TO DO WITH IT? A short piece by Anita Hoffer of Harvard Univ that explores getting old, being sexual, and the adjustments that are required. The link is HERE
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70 SOMETHING WOMEN HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER: This article just appeared in my E mail box. It is from Boston's NPR news station and explores in some depth older women's sexuality. Yes, older women are having great sex! Sexual Septuagenarian is NOT an oxymoron. THE LINK IS HERE
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HOMEWORK
Betsy Crane is a professor of Human Sexuality at Widener University in PA. Here are her thoughts on getting old and being sexual. The link is HERE
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WHY I'D RATHER SLEEP WITH AN OLD GUY: Article by a woman on the joys of sleeping with older men who lack six pack abdomens but are not in a hurry. The link is HERE
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SEX AND THE SINGLE SENIOR from the NYTimes. Yes, seniors are still having sex and you know the wages of sin: Herpes etc! But that does not stop seniors from having sex so read what seniors really are doing in those old folks homes. They are having sex! THE LINK IS HERE. AND DON'T FORGET TO READ THE COMMENTS -- PRICELESS......
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JOAN PRICE -- BETTER THAN I EVER EXPECTED. Here is a blog done by a lady who really gets aging and sexuality. She is straight forward and truthful about matters of concern to the aging population. And she is an expert on sex toys for the elderly. She actually tests the toys and writes some pretty truthful reviews that will save you money by suggesting toys that really work. One of the best sites available on sex for the senior citizen: The link to her website is HERE
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Mature women talking about their sex lives are not uncommon these days and here is another who is comfortable talking about her sex life. See what Walker Thornton has to say HERE.
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THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF SEXUAL EXPRESSION (Planned Parenthood -- 2007) Much of what you hear about sex is negative: abuse, addiction, dysfunction, infection, unwanted pregnancy, pedophilia, etc. And you are never taught the benefits of sexual expression. This aging paper lists a myriad of heath benefits of sex. The link is HERE.
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MARRIED SEX GETS BETTER IN THE GOLDEN YEARS -- NEW YORK TIMES 2/23/2015
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/02/23/married-sex-gets-better-in-the-golden-years/?action=click&contentCollection=Opinion&module=MostEmailed&version=Full®ion=Marginalia&src=me&pg
The link is HERE
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If you are a real information nut and want to look at a myriad of abstracts on aging and sexuality you are in luck. The American Psychological Association has collected material HERE
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WAS IT FATAL FOR YOU: SEX AND AGING AND DEFIBRILLATORS THE LINK IS HERE
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/fashion/Sex-Was-It-Fatal-for-You-Darling.html?emc=edit_tnt_20140320&nlid=65606895&tntemail0=y&_r=0
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SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY: WHAT'S AGING GOT TO DO WITH IT? A short piece by Anita Hoffer of Harvard Univ that explores getting old, being sexual, and the adjustments that are required. The link is HERE
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70 SOMETHING WOMEN HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER: This article just appeared in my E mail box. It is from Boston's NPR news station and explores in some depth older women's sexuality. Yes, older women are having great sex! Sexual Septuagenarian is NOT an oxymoron. THE LINK IS HERE
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HOMEWORK
Betsy Crane is a professor of Human Sexuality at Widener University in PA. Here are her thoughts on getting old and being sexual. The link is HERE
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WHY I'D RATHER SLEEP WITH AN OLD GUY: Article by a woman on the joys of sleeping with older men who lack six pack abdomens but are not in a hurry. The link is HERE
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SEX AND THE SINGLE SENIOR from the NYTimes. Yes, seniors are still having sex and you know the wages of sin: Herpes etc! But that does not stop seniors from having sex so read what seniors really are doing in those old folks homes. They are having sex! THE LINK IS HERE. AND DON'T FORGET TO READ THE COMMENTS -- PRICELESS......
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JOAN PRICE -- BETTER THAN I EVER EXPECTED. Here is a blog done by a lady who really gets aging and sexuality. She is straight forward and truthful about matters of concern to the aging population. And she is an expert on sex toys for the elderly. She actually tests the toys and writes some pretty truthful reviews that will save you money by suggesting toys that really work. One of the best sites available on sex for the senior citizen: The link to her website is HERE
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Mature women talking about their sex lives are not uncommon these days and here is another who is comfortable talking about her sex life. See what Walker Thornton has to say HERE.
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THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF SEXUAL EXPRESSION (Planned Parenthood -- 2007) Much of what you hear about sex is negative: abuse, addiction, dysfunction, infection, unwanted pregnancy, pedophilia, etc. And you are never taught the benefits of sexual expression. This aging paper lists a myriad of heath benefits of sex. The link is HERE.
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MARRIED SEX GETS BETTER IN THE GOLDEN YEARS -- NEW YORK TIMES 2/23/2015
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/02/23/married-sex-gets-better-in-the-golden-years/?action=click&contentCollection=Opinion&module=MostEmailed&version=Full®ion=Marginalia&src=me&pg
The link is HERE
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If you are a real information nut and want to look at a myriad of abstracts on aging and sexuality you are in luck. The American Psychological Association has collected material HERE
In this lecture we will explore the juicy details of senior sexual expression. Compared to sexual expression in the young, senior sex is no better, no worse, just a lot different and requires a major attitude adjustment. There is much less urgency and much less acrobatics.
I suggest you take a look at the Marty Klein videos on this WEBSITE Just pick the ones that are of interest to you. Marty Klein, BTW, is one of the great sex therapists and well known sex educators who is a popular speaker at major sexuality meeting all over the world. He is one of my favorite educators.
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In case you are wondering about the title here is an explanation. For this lecture I have divided into the following sections: INTRODUCTION, TURNING ON, GETTING IT UP, GETTING IT IN, GETTING OFF, COMING DOWN, CLEANING UP.
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NAKED THURSDAYS: Because getting turned ON is not as easy as you age, Walker Thornton blogs about what one older couple does to maintain an active sexual connection. Naked Thursdays is described in her blog at the link HERE This is something all seniors should give serious thought to to keep their sex lives, ummmm, alive. DON'T MISS THIS BLOG.
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A BRIEF REVIEW OF AGING AND SEXUALITY IS HERE
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https://seniorplanet.org/a-seniors-guide-to-sex-without-intercourse/ JOAN PRICE Good reviewseniorplanet.org/a-seniors-guide-to-sex-without-intercourse/